Saturday, January 10

Grief Doesn't Have Me

It's been a year. I got the call from my little brother at 7am this morning one year ago. I was driving down to help care for her but she was already gone. She walked through the gates of heaven one year ago today! It's been a year of lessons, of growth and of tears but it's also been a year of celebration. She has been with God for a year now, celebrating. She's not in pain, she's not broken, she's not hurting. She's free from the cancer, heartache, and any sadness. She's dancing and singing and part of the party! She has gotten to see and understand things we here on earth still can't wrap our minds around. She's with her dad and Tina and so many others that I know are also up in heaven. She's not alone! 

I've had it on my heart for a while now to talk about how grief doesn't have me. Today is the day my mind became active with how I wanted to put it all down. 

When you loose someone as close to you as your mom, tears come. Grief does come, it's natural. Loving God and knowing I am part of His family as I do I know grief doesn't have to overtake my life. I'm free from that. You can be sad your loved one isn't with you and you can't call them but believing in God means you know the separation is only temporary. I know my mom believed in God, I know she went through heaven's gates, I know she is with Him. In my quite moments of prayer God has placed reassurance in my heart of that. With that knowledge and the knowledge I have some day I'll be up there as well, then I know I'll see her again. This isn't goodbye forever just simply for a time. I've seen people around me loose love ones and at the same time loose sight of the hope. They stay in the grief and wade through an endless field. The grief overtakes them. I'm here to tell you that isn't how it has to be. If you believe in God you can choose a different path. I'm not saying you won't ever cry or have moments but I am saying they'll be just that - moments. 

Some days are hard, some moments are hard but then I think and reflect on how many cool moments she is getting to have. I think about how many people she is meeting and getting to know. I think of how perfect she is now that she's in heaven and I can't help but be happy. When you know your mom is no longer in pain, no longer sad, no longer broken you can't help but stop and smile. In those moments I'm grateful of the hope God has given us. I'm grateful in my weakness, He is strong. So today I choose to celebrate, to smile, to laugh and to enjoy. Tears may come today but I'm determined to set my mind on the hope because I know I'll be able to see her again. I know this isn't the end but rather the beginning. She's whole and complete and someday - hopefully a long time from now (I'm in no rush) I'll get to see her again and this time I won't see her broken body hurting from a horrible cancer but I'll see her whole and happy as she is right now. She wants us to be happy and so I'll find the joy today because of the hope! 

I rest on God's hope for us, I rest in His arms when mine are weak, I rest in knowing He is God! 

"Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.  For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. 15 According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16 For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18 Therefore encourage one another with these words." -- 1 Thessalonians 4:13 - 18



  1. Good word, Alex.

  2. Excellent post! Thank you for that encouragement.